When crisis hits, a person will go through a process with 3 stages.
1st is denial, where he cant accept the fact and feel bad on the situation with no way out.
2nd is resistant, where he still not find any way to solve the problem, but he start ti resist to the situation and become feeling-less.
3rd is acceptance, this is the stage that he really start to accept the fact, try to live a better life and with solution with the crisis or situation he facing.
Everyone have to go through this process, stronger people go through it faster. So stay strong and you will definitely past through it 1 day. But remember, you have to accept it at the end no matter what.
Good luck to all of you.
Inspired by: Soaring Higher by pat mesiti
Wednesday, May 9, 2012
Tuesday, May 1, 2012
生命导师之前所说的一句话
刚刚，我脑海里冒出了我生命导师之前所说的一句话：
Andy， 我知道现在很多事你都不愿意做，不喜欢做，可是我所面对的你未来也需要面对。已经20多岁的你其实应该已经感觉到未来十年二十年的生活并不是想象中的那么 简单~其中更包括了两样只有上没有下的费用。一，是孩子的教育费；二，是父母未来的医药费。也许你会觉得这是以后的事以后再打算，可是当这些事来到的时候 我已经做好准备了，那你呢？难道到了那个时候，你到外面去向人求助，求人帮你是你愿意，自愿做的事吗？
我听了以后，我深思了很久很久~真的，我的导师说得对，就算现在有很多很多的原因使我不喜欢或不愿意，可是这个不愿意远远比我以后到外求助来的藐小多了。
真是谢谢我的导师，让我明白了一个道理。有很多事虽然我们不愿意不喜欢做，可是如果你是一位成熟的人，你不应该以喜不喜欢来判断要做的事，而是以该不该来判断。
小孩只做自己喜欢做的事，成人会做自己该做的事~！这句话太对了~！
Andy， 我知道现在很多事你都不愿意做，不喜欢做，可是我所面对的你未来也需要面对。已经20多岁的你其实应该已经感觉到未来十年二十年的生活并不是想象中的那么 简单~其中更包括了两样只有上没有下的费用。一，是孩子的教育费；二，是父母未来的医药费。也许你会觉得这是以后的事以后再打算，可是当这些事来到的时候 我已经做好准备了，那你呢？难道到了那个时候，你到外面去向人求助，求人帮你是你愿意，自愿做的事吗？
我听了以后，我深思了很久很久~真的，我的导师说得对，就算现在有很多很多的原因使我不喜欢或不愿意，可是这个不愿意远远比我以后到外求助来的藐小多了。
真是谢谢我的导师，让我明白了一个道理。有很多事虽然我们不愿意不喜欢做，可是如果你是一位成熟的人，你不应该以喜不喜欢来判断要做的事，而是以该不该来判断。
小孩只做自己喜欢做的事，成人会做自己该做的事~！这句话太对了~！
Friday, March 16, 2012
Tears Could Not Be Bought
Tears, a symbol of emotions. It can represent sadness, joyful, appreciation, happiness, unwillingness, disappointment, pain and even others. No matter whom you are and how strong you are, you can’t get away from tears when something touches your heart. This is a fact and you can’t deny it.
Beside laughter, tears are something that will affect the emotion of others beside you. It is one of the strongest and most valuable elements in the world. Some people say, tears is nothing, money is everything and money can buy anything. I don’t think so~!
Even an actor, who gets paid to act, his or her tears are not bought as well; the things that are purchased are the memories that cause the actor to cry. Tears are priceless.
Especially an adult, when is the last time you cry? And why are you crying at that time? Because of a bad and hard life you having? Or because you feel touch from the others people helps?
If you are having a bad life now, go ahead and cry. Crying is a way to release your emotions; no one will look down at you because you are crying. But please remember to stand up stronger after crying, your family, your friends and the world need you. Stay strong and fight again~!
If you are crying because of someone who help you a lot, no matter whom it is, the one who make you cry from helping you is the one who gives you his true heart. This is a relation that could not be bought, a feeling that is most valuable in the world. No one in the world have the responsibility to help you with true heart, please remember that. Those who help you with true heart will never want you to pay him back. There is nothing much you can do to help the person like this, the only thing you can do is fulfill his dreams and his wishes.
This is a world that is living in groups. If everyone in the world could help each other in the world, no matter is a great help or just a little help, as long as it is from true heart, WE CAN MAKE THE WORLD TO A WONDERFUL WORLD EVER.
Beside laughter, tears are something that will affect the emotion of others beside you. It is one of the strongest and most valuable elements in the world. Some people say, tears is nothing, money is everything and money can buy anything. I don’t think so~!
Even an actor, who gets paid to act, his or her tears are not bought as well; the things that are purchased are the memories that cause the actor to cry. Tears are priceless.
Especially an adult, when is the last time you cry? And why are you crying at that time? Because of a bad and hard life you having? Or because you feel touch from the others people helps?
If you are having a bad life now, go ahead and cry. Crying is a way to release your emotions; no one will look down at you because you are crying. But please remember to stand up stronger after crying, your family, your friends and the world need you. Stay strong and fight again~!
If you are crying because of someone who help you a lot, no matter whom it is, the one who make you cry from helping you is the one who gives you his true heart. This is a relation that could not be bought, a feeling that is most valuable in the world. No one in the world have the responsibility to help you with true heart, please remember that. Those who help you with true heart will never want you to pay him back. There is nothing much you can do to help the person like this, the only thing you can do is fulfill his dreams and his wishes.
This is a world that is living in groups. If everyone in the world could help each other in the world, no matter is a great help or just a little help, as long as it is from true heart, WE CAN MAKE THE WORLD TO A WONDERFUL WORLD EVER.
Thursday, February 2, 2012
My Emotional Dream - The Dream that Always Make Me Cry.
My dream is very simple.
[[[To cancel the word "expensive" in my dictionary.]]]
Since young, my parents teach us not to waste money, choose those with "cheap and good". Cheap and good quality, cheap and good service, cheap and happiest, cheap and tastiest, cheap and enjoy, cheap and relax, cheap and comfortable.
Being myself as the elder son in family for 22 years, I had been told as the above. However what my parents taught me is actually not happening, and it became even harder now.
The main reason behind this is very simple. That’s because our income doesn’t increase as fast as inflation and this mean we are getting poorer day by day. The word “cheap” is no longer exist and disappearing in my mind. By the time of our children generation, I believe they don’t even know the meaning of “cheap”, because they will never experience it if we don’t do anything now!
Beside our children in future, my parents are now 52 & 46. I remember few months back, my dad said something that shock me and I can’t forget this for my life. He said:
“I think I am going to extent my retire age to 60 instead of 55.”
It is impossible that my dad love his job, and I know he say this because he know if he retire at the age of 55, our family will not have sufficient income to survive. As the elder son in the family I feel really guilty and sad even when I write this now. Why am I so useless, I can’t even get my parents to retire and enjoy life after raising me for 22 years!
At this moment of time, my friends Haw Sim and others actually post me a question, “Do you want to be successful in 20 to 50 years or 2 to 5 years?”. After doubting for a while, I answered to myself, I want to be success in 2 to 5 years, I want my parents to see me as a successful man! Moreover, success is not enough! I want to remove the word “expensive” from my dictionary as well as my parents dictionary. I said it and I mean it!
This is really a simple dream, just to remove the word “Expensive” I believe I can do it .
The last thing I want to say to my parents is that:
“DAD, MUM, WAIT FOR ME, ONLY IN 2 TO 5 YEARS, I WANT BOTH OF YOU TO RETIRE AND ENJOY YOUR LIFE & THIS WILL LAST FOREVER! THANK YOU DAD, MUM, I LOVE YOU!”
[[[To cancel the word "expensive" in my dictionary.]]]
Since young, my parents teach us not to waste money, choose those with "cheap and good". Cheap and good quality, cheap and good service, cheap and happiest, cheap and tastiest, cheap and enjoy, cheap and relax, cheap and comfortable.
Being myself as the elder son in family for 22 years, I had been told as the above. However what my parents taught me is actually not happening, and it became even harder now.
The main reason behind this is very simple. That’s because our income doesn’t increase as fast as inflation and this mean we are getting poorer day by day. The word “cheap” is no longer exist and disappearing in my mind. By the time of our children generation, I believe they don’t even know the meaning of “cheap”, because they will never experience it if we don’t do anything now!
Beside our children in future, my parents are now 52 & 46. I remember few months back, my dad said something that shock me and I can’t forget this for my life. He said:
“I think I am going to extent my retire age to 60 instead of 55.”
It is impossible that my dad love his job, and I know he say this because he know if he retire at the age of 55, our family will not have sufficient income to survive. As the elder son in the family I feel really guilty and sad even when I write this now. Why am I so useless, I can’t even get my parents to retire and enjoy life after raising me for 22 years!
At this moment of time, my friends Haw Sim and others actually post me a question, “Do you want to be successful in 20 to 50 years or 2 to 5 years?”. After doubting for a while, I answered to myself, I want to be success in 2 to 5 years, I want my parents to see me as a successful man! Moreover, success is not enough! I want to remove the word “expensive” from my dictionary as well as my parents dictionary. I said it and I mean it!
This is really a simple dream, just to remove the word “Expensive” I believe I can do it .
The last thing I want to say to my parents is that:
“DAD, MUM, WAIT FOR ME, ONLY IN 2 TO 5 YEARS, I WANT BOTH OF YOU TO RETIRE AND ENJOY YOUR LIFE & THIS WILL LAST FOREVER! THANK YOU DAD, MUM, I LOVE YOU!”
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